I started this year choosing six books to read for self-development. My goal was (and still is) to apply what I learn and share with you. One book every 2 months. What I hadn’t anticipated was the depth of knowledge and introspection I’d uncover. I could spend an entire year pondering and applying the concepts in The Four Agreements.
When this book came out in 1997, I feared it because a pastor condemned it as being sacrilegious. I should have read the book myself instead of trusting someone else. If you could glean only one thing from me, please glean this: You have to listen TO SELF before others. You are a thinking, feeling, intelligent being. You can make your own judgments. If I had opened this book in 1997, I would be in a wildly different place – a better, more loving and peaceful, place – than I am in 2021.
Ruiz spends a lot of time explaining The Book of Law – those things we believe because we’ve been taught to believe them -- not because they are truth. You have your book. I have my book. You can’t know mine and I can’t know yours. Yet, we judge each other and ourselves based on these unknowns and these untruths.
We victimize ourselves because someone else told me what to think and believe.
“95% of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe all these lies.”
I think 95% is low.
“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and express what we really are.”
I will find a way to risk being alive. I will start with intention. I intend to:
I can’t. But I can try. I can acknowledge when I missed the mark. I can apologize to you or to myself. I can release judgment. I can try again.
I can remind myself of these commitments daily. I can see how embracing and employing these agreements will make my life more peaceful and my relationships more real. There is a very cool necklace I hope to buy myself. Or maybe a tattoo. Until then, I have purchased these great coloring sheets from Etsy. I commit to actually coloring these and not putting them aside. I commit to hanging these above my desk and not forgetting they are there.
That’s my very best.
Ruiz has a book called The Fifth Agreement. I’ll have to add that one to 2022 – four agreements is plenty for 2021.
Which of The Four Agreements resonates with you? What I mean is, which one is an area you might need to take an honest assessment of yourself at this moment in life? What commitments can you make to yourself? To others?
Are you brave enough to open your Book of Law?
Coming Up Next: Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
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